This site is dedicated to the publication and promotion of books and media that best portray all the wondrous dimensions of the true 
Catholic imagination with its faithful perception and contemplation of all visible and invisible reality made new by the living presence 
of the Word Incarnate.  May this array of exemplary books and blogs extol and instill a gladsome and playful experience of the Catholic 
sacrificial mindset and sacramental worldview.  May traipsing  through these pages whet your wits and brighten your witness to the 
beauty of truth at the Heart of the World , in the Face of the Word.
 Goodbooks Media
  • Home
  • Still Catholic
  • Books We Publish
    • How to Remain Sane in a World That Is Going Mad
    • Toward a 21st Century Catholic World-View
    • LAST CALL
    • PRAYER
    • PARADISE COMMANDER >
      • Interviews
      • Articles & Essays
    • 12 for Christmas
    • Christmas Is Forever
    • NUZZLE & FRITZAPAW
  • Blogs
    • RondaView >
      • Transformative Catholic Philosophy
      • Toward a 21st Century Catholic World View
    • Catacombs Post Office
    • Catholic Imagination
  • Book Salon
  • Audios
  • Get in Touch

Loosening My Grip

9/28/2018

1 Comment

 
Like many 80 year old’s ​I am each day feeling more that I am losing my grip on life…I mean, not in the physical sense about the body, but rather by forgetfulness, etc., that I no longer have a firm grip on daily life things.
Picture
​
I got a good image in prayer:  “Losing your grip  on life; grab onto the hand of Jesus.”
Picture

​“Dementia” as liberation? 
I Mean the type of semi-dementia or incipient dementia  that gave me the idea for this phase of my Blog –
“Ruminations of a Demented Pseudo-Nun.”
In any case the liberation part came when signing over access to my
​Checking Account and Debit Card to my granddaughter, Jenny,
with whom I am living now in Hot Springs! 

“Ah,” I thought “I will never absolutely have to sign a check again!”
Picture
“The Romanticism” of Utopianism and also Zealotry?
Picture
In the course of desultory reading of books that happen to be around my granddaughter’s home, I came upon an autobiography of a famous woman union leader of  the early 20th century: Mother Jones. The industrial conditions she describes I had known about only as generalities, not as eye-witness descriptions of children of 4-6 years old’s  trained to crawl under dangerous machines to fix things to avoid danger for the parental generation!  Mother Jones paraded the mutilated children on the stage at rallies to solicit new members for the unions.
Of course, I could see why union leaders risked and often lost their lives protesting such realities!
But, then, I thought, Mother Jones could never have imagined how anti-capitalist followers of Marx would  wind up creating totalitarian states far worse all over the world!
Because we know how horrible Communism is in practice, does that mean that the evils of industrialism didn’t exist? No!

Picture

​Is this why Jesus didn’t become a Zealot against the terrible injustices of Roman conquest?  Because He knew that no matter what would replace the Roman Empire, it, also, would have terrible evils of injustice?
Is that why we pro-lifers decided to follow the example of Gandhi and Martin Luther King, Jr. in passive resistance vs. all out violent war against abortionists?
So, underlying all of this, I am thinking: Even though fighting violently against injustice can sometimes be right and be part of the vocation God has for some of us – as in the motives for war against Hitler, etc. – still we cannot exalt hatred of injustice to the raison-d’etre of our lives.

Picture
Picture
I went to confession for years of hatred of the enemies, without and within of our Church. The priest, a serene Asian Indian pastor, suggested that even if we can be right we cannot know the deepest intent of those whose ideas and actions we deplore, so we need mostly to pray and lean on God’s mercy.

1 Comment

Great Grandmothering

9/11/2018

1 Comment

 
Before coming to live with my granddaughter’s family I had all these thoughts about how it would be with my great granddaughter, Teresa,
age 3 ½.  To my surprise, the thing she likes best about me is not my smile,
​or my hair, but my dentures!  

Happening to have followed me into the bathroom where I brush the top dentures and the 6 bottom teeth still left after every meal, she was fascinated by the dentures! 
So, now, as soon as she sees the later piece of food on my plate at meals going into my mouth, she pops up with: “Now you are going downstairs to brush your teeth?”
Picture
Picture
Picture
If you read the following you may think “This is so incomplete! Why didn’t you, Ronda, write more about “x”, “y” or “z.” It was written with a specific plan in mind to try to reach this individual woman.
This friend was writing about her abortion years ago which she justified because of the circumstances but also because she doesn’t think the baby in the womb is a human person, etc. etc. etc.
Since she is not philosophically inclined, I thought of writing her back in a different vein. It would be helpful in some way to one of you readers even though just a particular slant.
 
Dear______________________,
Instead of writing some strictly logical answer to what you wrote, I want to respond in a different, more literary way.
In healing of memories exercises people write letters to those who died and then write hypothetical letters written back from the person gone from this earth. For example, I once wrote to my father about how my life was wounded by his leaving us when we were 8 years old and then had him write back describing what his life with my mother was like and how he hated leaving us children but felt he had to leave her.
It helps with forgiveness.
So, here I will pretend I am you doing a healing of memories with the baby you aborted:
Baby now grown up in eternity:  My mother, I wanted to be your baby and live on earth with you.  Why did you abort me, instead?
(My friend’s hypothetical answer): You would have to understand where I was in my life.  At that time sex between teen boys and girls on dates was very common, expected actually.
Baby: Didn’t you know that sex often leads to babies?  Didn’t you learn that in High School biology?
(Friend)  Of course, but just the same when we were drinking or doing drugs on dates that wasn’t on our minds. Since this is so common, that’s why I think education in contraception is so needed for young people.
Baby: According to some medical experts, contraceptives flush out already formed embryos if they don’t succeed first in keeping the sperm and egg separate.
(Friend) : I don’t believe that is true, but even if it is, I thought then, and think now that babies should be born to women who are eager to have them.
Baby: If your mother had been less than eager to have you, would you have rather not been born?
(Friend): I don’t know. I just know that I wasn’t ready and I am glad of many things I did since then I couldn’t have done if I had delivered you and taken care of you instead.
Baby: You never thought about adoption?
(Friend): I love babies. I couldn’t have seen you and given you away.
Baby: I forgive you because I understand better and the God I know here in heaven is a God of mercy. I look forward to someday seeing you here with me.
Then, I add this:
2018 Possible scenario:
We live in a loosely knit Christian community.  Our teens meet at parties chaperoned by adults. They dance, and have fun, and flirt a little but they are never allowed to be alone together in places where sexual intercourse is possible. Males are taught that they need to control their strong sex drives and wait for marriage. Marriages are much earlier, with the young couples living with their parents while continuing schooling and working part-time. The babies that come are nurtured by the entire extended family and the community. The children, of usually many children families, learn to help with babies at an early age. 
Or, if they don’t want to be married until later they offer the sacrifice of not having sex until they are ready for marriage. God’s grace help them with this struggle. 
If a young woman becomes pregnant before marriage but doesn’t feel ready for motherhood, she chooses adoption for the baby.
Laws against rape include terrible penalties for proved violations. If the female becomes pregnant she is supported by the entire community and may choose to give the baby up for adoption. She is lauded as a heroine for so doing. Adopting couples don’t have to wait for many, many, years because so many babies are aborted.
Love, Ronda    
Picture
1 Comment

On We Go, Soft and Slow

9/3/2018

1 Comment

 
Amusing incident: 
Here in the home of my granddaughter, Jenny, her husband, Sean, and the 1 month old and 3 ½ year old, they love to pray the rosary every evening before bed aloud.  Well, it can get difficult if the baby is crying and the older sister is running around wildly. So, here was their creative solution one evening:  Jenny had the baby in one of these cotton sling holders around her bosom and she was walking around to put the baby to sleep. But Teresa, the 3 ½ year old was jealous and whiney. So, Sean, suddenly grabbed a huge carrier and put the 35 lb. girl into it and walked her around, meanwhile praying the decades!  I thought it was a very creative penance since he could also lose weight himself doing it!!!!
Picture
A theme for this time in my life that allegedly was given to me by Mother Mary, was to try to be much slower and softer at the same time.  The form it takes is stating truths to others in a more gentle witness type style vs. confrontational – full of “you should’s”
Picture
Picture
Back to some Games Catholics Play: 
(scroll way back to early August for an explanation of this theme)

We can think that ridicule is okay because it is funny and true.  A way to overcome this temptation is to think about how much we like being ridiculed ourselves!  How does ridicule fit with the admonition “Speak the truth with love"?
Gossip as necessary: 
​A distinction is made in spirituality between telling someone about another person as a necessary warning because of pastoral concerns or gossip. A clear example would be telling your teen that a certain friend is a drug addict who has to be avoided.  Now, on the basis of such pastoral concern some of us justify telling others everything juicy that is bad about others in the present or people in the past. Or, we gossip in that bad way for 15 minutes but end with a 1 second  prayer for the same person..

Picture
You might say – but it is healthy to vent. We can’t just swallow all the bad and never talk about it.  We do need to vent, but I find that when I vent with people who I deem to be holier than myself, they turn the vent very soon into prayerful reflection about good ways to handle those bad things!    
Picture
1 Comment

    Author

    Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. She is a dedicated widow, mother, and grandmother.
    Ronda converted to the Catholic Faith from a Jewish, though atheistic, background and has been a Professor of Philosophy and Theology at Loyola Marymount University, the Seminary of the Archdiocese of Los Angeles, and Franciscan University of Steubenville. She is an international speaker and author of some fifty books about Catholic thought, practice and spirituality. One of her latest is LAST CALL, published by Goodbooks Media.
    Dr. Ronda is currently retired and living in Corpus Christi, Texas after her years of teaching philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut.
    You can contact her via e-mail by clicking here or by emailing [email protected] directly.

    Visit her websites:
    here and here.

    Archives

    April 2021
    July 2019
    June 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    August 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    December 2014
    November 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    June 2014
    May 2014
    April 2014
    March 2014
    February 2014
    January 2014
    December 2013

    Categories

    All
    Bishop Flaget
    Body Language
    Comfort Zone
    Fr. Longenecker
    Healing For Insecurity
    Loud Voice
    Old People And Tech Transition
    Prayer Of Suffering
    Problems And Graces
    Richard And Ruth Ballard
    Soft Talk
    What Saints Said

    RSS Feed

    Check Out Religion Podcasts at Blog Talk Radio with Bob Olson on BlogTalkRadio
Web Hosting by FatCow